Collected by Imam Al-Bukhari Abu Abdullah Muhammad bin Ismail
With commentary based on the checking, editing, rulings, and comments of:
Imam Muhammad Naasiruddeen al-Albaanee
Shaykh Husayn ‘Awdah al-‘Awaayisha
Shaykh Sameer bin Ameen az-Zuhayree
Dr. Muhammad Luqman as-Salafee
The Supplication of Parents
1. Abu Hurayra said:
“The Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم said, ‘Three supplications are answered without a doubt: the supplication of someone who is oppressed, the supplication of someone on a journey and the supplication of parents against their children.’” (Good)
As for the oppressed, it is due to the stress inflicted on him and his being dominated harshly. As regards the traveler, it is for his lonesomeness and toil in his journey. Regarding the parents, it is because after bearing the pains of pregnancy, childbirth and nursing, they look forward to the child with strong emotional attachments. The hadeeth warns against disappointing and annoying parents.
2. Abu Hurayra said:
“The Messenger of Allah صلى الله عليه وسلم said, ‘No human child has ever spoken in the cradle except for ‘Isa bin Maryam, peace be upon him, and the associate of Jurayj.’ The Prophet of Allah صلى الله عليه وسلم was asked, ‘Who was the associate of Jurayj?’ The Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم said, ‘Jurayj was a monk who lived alone in his hermitage. There was a cow-herd who used to take shelter at the foot of his hermitage, and a woman from the village used to come to the cow-herd.
‘One day his mother came and called, “Jurayj” while he was praying. He asked himself, “My mother or my prayer?” He thought that he should prefer the prayer. She shouted at him a second time and he asked himself, “My mother or my prayer?” He thought that he should prefer the prayer. She shouted a third time and again he asked himself, “My mother or my prayer?” He thought that he should prefer the prayer. When he did not answer her, she said, “Jurayj, may Allah not let you die until you have looked in the face of the harlots.” Then she left.
‘Then the village woman was brought to the King after she had given birth to a child. He asked, “Whose is it?” She replied, “Jurayj’s.” He asked, “The man in the hermitage?” She answered, “Yes.” He ordered, “Destroy his hermitage and bring him to me.” His hermitage was hacked down with axes until it collapsed. Jurayj’s hand was bound to his neck with a rope and he was dragged along and paraded through the district of the harlots. He saw them and smiled. They were staring at him along with the other people.
‘The King said, “(Do you know) what this woman claims?” He asked, “What does she claim?” He said, “She claims that you are the father of her child.” He asked her, “Is this what you claim?” “Yes,” she replied. Then he asked, “Where is the child?” They replied, “It is the one who is in her lap.” He turned to the child and asked, “Who is your father?” He said, “The cow-herd.” The King said, “Shall we build your hermitage out of gold?” He replied, “No.” He asked, “Of silver?” He answered, “No.” The King asked, “Then of what shall we make it?” He said, “Put it back the way it was.” The King then asked, “What made you smile?” He said, “Something that I knew. My mother’s supplication overtook me.” Then he told him about it.’” (Authentic)
This hadeeth teaches the following:
(1) That a man remains in seclusion with a woman who is not his wife or those with whom he is permanently prohibited in marriage is a precursor to great evils.
(2) That the supplication of Jurayj’s mother overtook him indicated that to respond to his mother’s call was more important.
(3) The excellence of the scholar over the worshiper. Hafidh Ibn Hajar (rahimahullah) said: “If Jurayj were to be a scholar, he would have known that responding to his mother is more important.”
(4) Allah the Mighty and Exalted protects the truthful and provides them ways out of trials. However, this may be delayed in some instances so that they earn more reward for their patience and hope in Him during trials, or just as a way of further rectifying and purifying them.
(5) It evinces the fact that Allah, the most High, grants Karaamaat (extra-ordinary events) to whomever He wills among His slaves as is the creed of the Ahl as-Sunnah wal-Jamaa’ah.
(6) Whoever is in the position to discipline a person or people should do so with leniency for despite the fact that Jurayj’s mother was angry, she did not supplicate that he should fall into sin with the harlots.
(7) Children should desist from whatever will make them incur the anger of their parents as long as doing so does not entail sinfulness.